[Today's Lisa Zate Topic] Depression's shadow and light

Perfectionists think that they must be serious and always perfect. After starting something, they don't like halfway through until it finishes exactly, and don't want to start halfway. They are worrying about people's eyes, and they always want to please people.

Especially when it comes to work, because of that personality, they get stressed and break. Some people suddenly explode or become depressed.  

You can speak normally when you go outside and meet people, so they look absolutely normal in ordinal life to everyone. But when get home, can't be alone. No matter how much they listen to people's stories, famous stories of storytellers, celebrities, and counselors, even if you say that you should do it, you don't do that, do this, which will may change their mind one, two days however return to reality again and again. why?

Because the fundamental thing has not been solved. This is because people are not touched by the root of depression. When people really get depressed, even professionals it is hard to find the roots behind them. Many people just say that your "reality" is "minus thought" or "negative person". That;s just annoying that a superficial person gives advice on how to deal with a superficial thing.

Mr. Kamogashira, a lecturer saying, "Every day changes depending on how you have your heart, because the mind is decided, not others decision or others thought ." I was shocked. I thought that things would come to me and then I would judge myself because things would happen. That is why i feel ​​"I'm unhappy"  "Why am I getting this kind of sh**?" But It all seems to be a "belief". Moreover, it seems to be just a "belief" that I am worried, thinking over and over again and thinking in my head that it has not happened yet. 

Seeking perfection from people, stress builds up. The belief that this person will do this by when, also assume that when this will happen and will end. But one of the frustrations when a person cannot do what you can do is the assumption of perfection.

Isn't it a little easier if you think about now that belief is a belief, and the belief is fictitious. Then, the gears of life will start to turn in an unexpected direction, such as valuing yourself, improving yourself, seeing new challenges and trying to work toward them. you won't be able to worry or think about others how they feels and thinks such a such.

Let's realize that this is the result of each decisions we made own at each moment. Every judgment/decisions from the time we were born, that we have decided everything ourselves, and that it is a waste of time to blame others. Then you think you'll be ready to focus on yourself and move forward with what you want to do and where you want to do for your life. You value yourself and become aware of every moment I've lost my "belief" and it becomes easier to live. It's something I was already addicted to. Some people may not change like that, but it's good to be able to convince your brain not to think. It's fine because it's such a trivial matter. No one will judge you anymore.

However i know it's not the easy process as i wrote in a few sentences. But I know the process will end and i got "the different direction" in my life now.

Please do not hesitate if you are, or you know someone hs same issue, let me know.